Key Insights on Relationships

Charlemagne actually proposed marriage to Byzantine Empress Irene around 800 CE, but the proposal was rejected by her advisers who then overthrew her

• The alternate scenario explores how a successful Charlemagne-Irene marriage in 794 could have prevented the East-West Schism and fundamentally altered European religious history
• Money serves you best when it stops being the thing you think about, allowing focus on meaningful problems and relationships
• You don't attract the relationship you want - you attract the relationship you're ready to participate in
• Love responds to identity signals, not affirmations - you act based on who you believe you are
• Never go dating when you're starving for love - you make poor decisions from a place of lack
• People who get prenups usually don't get divorced, suggesting the vulnerable conversation required builds relationship skills
• According to Your Brain on Love, couples should address arguments within three minutes to prevent seeing partners as predators

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