Key ideas from Sabrina Zohar

• "Repetition compulsion means you're going to date the parts of you that haven't been healed" - Sabrina explains how unresolved childhood wounds drive dating patterns
• Your nervous system state determines your story, which determines your strategy - regulate first before making relationship decisions
• It takes 3,000 repetitions to create new neural pathways, explaining why changing dating patterns requires sustained effort over time
• "When you're with somebody, focus on how do I feel in my body when I'm with this person" rather than seeking their validation
• Distance creates desire - constantly texting prevents the other person from having space to step toward you
• "You can't love someone into changing, you can only love them as they change" - don't bet on potential in relationships
• Emotional unavailability isn't just avoidant attachment - anxious people are also emotionally unavailable when they outsource their emotions to others
• Going slow in dating means not expediting relationship stages faster than they need to be, maintaining your life while someone earns their place in it