Key ideas from James Sexton

• Professional athletes have a 70% divorce rate, nearly 50% higher than the national average, with 50% of divorces occurring within one year of retirement
• Everyone has a prenup - either one written by the government that can change without notice, or one negotiated by the couple
• People who get prenups usually don't get divorced, suggesting the vulnerable conversation required builds relationship skills
• Men will do whatever women demand to get sex - if women stopped sleeping with jerks, men would stop being jerks
• According to Your Brain on Love, couples should address arguments within three minutes to prevent seeing partners as predators
• The worst time to learn how to fight is when you're in a fight - establish ground rules for disagreements in advance
• Never weaponize intimacy - using someone's vulnerabilities against them during arguments is unrecoverable damage
• Sexual monotony develops when couples play only the hits, creating routines that become impossible to break without confrontation